Posted on 04.05.2019

To Hug, or Not to Hug

To hug or not to hug, that is the question, 
Whether ‘
tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous television coverage
Or to take arms from around the offended
And fade into this good night. 

Apologies to William Shakespeare.

I am not here to defame or defend Joe Biden, we live on opposite sides of the political planet and I disagree with most of what he says and the governing philosophies he stands for.

Having said that, I do not believe that the man is a pervert, and as one who comes from a generation and era when hugging was as much a part of greeting someone as saying hello, I would be remiss if I didn’t try to present a different point of view.

I am still inclined to hug people - and do so frequently - it is a big part of my family, who we are and how we feel about each other.

Our son is 53 years old and he still hugs Hazel and myself when he comes in and when he leaves.

I hug my employees if I haven’t seen them for a while, and the same goes for most of my friends.

Now I understand that when you get outside family and friends just walking up hugging somebody gets a little dicey, and even though done with the best of intentions can be construed, at least by females, as forward and invasive.

But I have ladies in the autograph line sometimes who ask for a hug, or want to have a picture made in an innocent arm around the shoulder pose and I’m always ready to oblige.

In some cases, I think hugs are healing, comforting and can express empathy much better than platitudes or the standard, worn out phrases we all tend to use in times of trying to give solace to those under stress.

I can’t speak for Uncle Joe, but hugging is an ingrained part of my personality, I come from an affectionate family and was born at a time when a chaste physical show of affection was a part of every family get together or chance meeting of friends and before the politically correct police tried to make something dirty or sinister out of so many decent, platonic gestures.

Nancy Pelosi has let it be known that she is a “straight arm” person who wants nobody closer than an arm’s length and to act in a demeanor as if they both had a cold and should stay a safe distance apart.

She has a perfect right to demand this, to protect the area around her from being invaded to discourage any show of affection and view it as a covert invasion of her space.

But as for me, I think it’s a cold unapproachable way to live and I’d hate to think that when I see a disabled veteran that I couldn’t put an arm around his shoulder and thank him for risking his life to protect mine.

I would shudder at the thought that I would ever attend the funeral of a friend and not be allowed to show my sympathy with a good hug for family members.

I’d rue the day when I would have to congratulate an excited award winner with a simple "congratulations".

So, while I don’t sniff hair or give massages or plant a big ol' smack on the mouth of a stranger or whisper in ears or hold faces, I strongly defend the hug, think the world needs a lot more of them, Joe Biden notwithstanding.

You should try it sometime, Ms. Pelosi.

Beats the heck out of having to act like you’ve got a cold all the time.

What do you think?

Pray for our troops our police and the peace of Jerusalem.

God Bless America

Charlie Daniels

— Charlie Daniels


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Cold Hearted Woman
Amen, Amen & Amen Charlie they wrote a song about Pelosi called Cold Hearted Woman. Ain't it amazing how Joe's own bunch of Democrats threw him under the bus. Even though I like you could count on one hand what I could agree with him on, I figure it must be that he is not radical left enough for main party handlers.....nuff said God Bless Plowboy
Posted by Plowboy
To hug or not to hug
I to come from a hugging family however I do believe these politicians have brought all these trust issues on their selves. He does seem like he’s a little grabby with other people’s kids when their not even engaged in a conversation. I’m not saying he is or isn’t I’m just saying the trust is gone with these people
Posted by Mike
God bless kind affection!!! And protect us all from wolves! ❤
Posted by Bernadette
Joes Woes
There's a difference between being generally friendly and being inappropriate. These days many women want to take some innocent gester and try to crucify and ruin a mans reputation. This is so wrong. They aught to be the ones on trial. Joe you hae nothing to be sorry about. Ladies- grow up.
Posted by Jerry
When I was a young man of 19 in the USAF, I would report to duty every night right smack dab in the middle of the Cold War. My job was to defend and secure the nuclear-loaded B-52s that stood vigil on alert, ready to respond in an instant should America come under attack. In those days, our chief rival was the communist Soviet Union, and as an American military troop, they were my sworn enemy. Hoping the day would never come, I was ready to take the lives of my enemies and fight to the death for my mission. I would have never thought that I would one day see an America where people sympathetic to the principles of Communism would sit in the very seat of power in this nation, and roam the chambers of the US Congress. It is a slap in the face of those who died overtly fighting communists in Southeast Asia and the Korean Penninsula, as well as those who died covertly in the clandestine services or on classified missions during the Cold War. For the rest of us who served during that time, we stood strong against the Communists then in defense of freedom. To find them here now, legislating and running for office, sickens me, and it should sicken you as well, no matter which side of the isle you lean towards.
Posted by Dan
Charlie....We just left the concert in Greensboro...l loved your version of how great thou art. We enjoyed yall and Alabama. What a change to get to hear real country again. As far as the hugging nonsense l agree with you 100 % . Thank the Good Lord theres still some common sense left.
Posted by Larry
Thank you Mr. Daniels,I am a great admirer of to you, your beliefs and honesty. Loved seeing you and your band in person. Rock on.
Posted by Robert
Hug or not
I’m not real crazy about Pelosi, but I have to disagree with you at holding people at arms length. I saw her when she got elected to House of Representative leader on tv and they showed her children and grandkids all around. She was holding a young child.
Posted by Judy
Speaking of hugging, my family has done this all of our lives. With that being said, when I meet you in Greenville, SC, I would absolutely consider it an honor to be hugged by you. Loved you and your music all of these years and saw you in Greenville, SC, with the Marshall Tucker Band in the late 70's. Love your blogs and love how you tell it like it is. Thank you.
Posted by Frances
Responding to Joes Woes, Posted by Jerry
Jerry, If some women are sensitive to these things, that's okay. As long as they're not victorians to the rest of us. -- Tru Cola
Posted by Tru
Biden needs to be more careful.
Hugging is one thing, hair sniffing and such is something else. And didn't Biden make some snotty comments about this issue? Yes, he was just joking. But those were some pretty tasteless jokes. No, I don't think Biden is a pervert, but he needs to be more careful. -- Tru Cola
Posted by Tru
I stand with Mr. Daniels. I hug! In the same manner as Mr. Daniels.
Posted by Frank
Posted by Charles
I'm a 1950 vintage model of homo sapiens, raised up in the South in an atmosphere of discipline, manners, and doubt very much like you, Sir. Hugs between family and close friends were straight forward expressions of sexual innuendo. I imagine you know what I'm talking about. However "Cousin Joe" appears to have lost sight of propriety lately, and should have been (re-)educated LONG before it ever reached the point it has. We have strayed from the manners we here in the South have been taught since birth. Of course, blurring genders, physical sex transformations, Safe Spaces, and other 'advances' in society make me wonder how Joe missed it all...
Posted by Thomas
Hugs are a mutual thing .. Coming up behind someone and putting hands on them and smelling and kissing head or whispering into the ear is different ..and I would be very uncomfortable with that. Go to you tube and see the vids of Biden with women and kids .. he is the only one in the room doing such acts. ..I am 70 years old and a retired nurse and I am also a touchy feely person but I don't ambush people . . and that is what Biden does. I agree with almost all of your post but not this one. Love ya Charlie
Posted by Wanetta
Good article- but do you think Trump is a pervert?
Posted by Ronald
Trump's Comments of Biden
Trump made comments about Biden doing these things. That's hypocrisy. I agree with you Trump supporters that he's done some good things as prez. It's still hypocritical of Trump to say these things about Biden. -- Tru Cola
Posted by Tru
Joe Hugs
Sure as hugs are genuine nothing like them But there is something about Joe's stealthy moves from behind. And people shouldn't look like they've been taken hostage. I wondered how many events of keepsake photos have Joe in about every shot? Like there he is again. One never knows about past experiences of women. All that aside, showing some humanity is not a bad thing. More would be better than less. But Joe could sit one out now and then. Or wait for them to approach him first instead of an ambush. ~ NIMOC
Posted by Jeff
I still like hugs.
Hugs are great. In spite of what I’ve said here, I think hugs are wonderful. If someone has a problem with them, respect their wishes and don’t judge them as cold or Victorian or whatever. But having said all of that, I still think hugs are wonderful. -- Tru Cola
Posted by Tru