Posted on 04.16.2018

Old Friends, Old Times, Old Memories

I recently spent time with an old and dear friend of mine. Our relationship goes back a long way and we haven’t had the chance to visit for any concentrated amount of time for many years.

As we sat and recalled the many personal and professional experiences we have shared over the decades, it was amazing how many of our mutual friends have passed away, been incapacitated or for one reason or another have disappeared from the circle of acquaintances 
we run into once in a while.

As the day went on it dawned on me how very comfortable I was with my friend and how much I was enjoying reliving old memories and making new ones, and it became apparent to me just how precious true friends are and that we should make a conscious effort to stay in touch with them.

At present I have a friend who is in the last stages of cancer and others whose marriages have broken up, are unhealthy to one degree or another or have serious family problems, which prompts me to believe that our days are so precious, that to waste even one of them being overly concerned about events that don’t really matter, grudges, disagreements, things that you have no control over, is a travesty.

And how much would another few days be worth to someone who is terminally ill. What would a person who has lost a loved one give, just to have that beloved person back for just a few hours, yet, we who enjoy health, family and interesting lives, waste irreplaceable time being miffed, petulant or angry over issues and happenings, that, in the general scheme of things are totally inconsequential to our lives.

I am aware of how very blessed I am to be in good health, at the age of 81 still traveling around the country working at a trade that I love with people I love.

The 20th of September Hazel and me will be married for 53 years, my son’s home is just down the road and I’ve got several employees who have been with me for over 40 years.

I love my God, I love my church, I love my country and I love my life.

When we are at home we seldom go out to dinner or much of anywhere else for that matter, and if I don’t even go out the gate for a week I am perfectly content.

In the 39 years we’ve lived at Twin Pines Ranch we have been blessed to surround ourselves with the things that we enjoy spending time doing and grabbing a rod and reel to go down and try to fool some of the large mouth bass in the big pond, saddling a gentle horse for a ride across the fields and hills or jumping on a four-wheeler with a couple of hundred rounds of .22 cartridges and heading for the shooting range is always a good weather option.

The point I’m trying to make is that, although the life I live on the road would seem chaotic and unsettled to some people, and the lifestyle we live at home would be extremely boring, to some people, a dichotomy of hustle and halt, to each his own, and the older I get, the more it seems “my own” in my private life is family, friends and a simple kind of fun, most of which can be found within a mile radius of my house.

I have reached the point that, although I’m just as competitive minded and driven to create and perform the music, there comes a time when we should take an assessment of the things we devote the precious days of our lives to and decide what is really important to us.

I have, through the process of culling and separating the essential from the non-essential reached a balance between my work and my personal life and although I still travel around one hundred thousand miles most years and play in excess of one hundred shows a year, have managed to find a comfortable balance between my personal and business life.

Of course, this is a personal choice and what works for me would probably not work for most other people.

But the point is that life goes by so fast, it never hesitates, never pauses and never rewinds.

What’s here today is gone tomorrow, and, as trite as the old phrase is, we really should stop to smell the roses along the way.

Have you got an old friend you love that you’ve kinda lost touch with?

Give them a call, make arrangements to get together and enjoy each other’s company.

It’s a good feeling.

What do you think?

Pray for our troops, our police and the peace of Jerusalem.

God Bless America

— Charlie Daniels

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Comments

Family Members Should Be Friends
Amen, Amen & Amen Charlie another well written and thought provoking piece. About all I can add is that some folks need to insert family members instead of old friends that they have lost touch with. Using the old phrase that blood is thicker than water , sometimes we need to think of a brother, sister, aunt, uncle or maybe even a parent that we have let the everyday cares of this world cause us to grow apart, or maybe let some small splinter fester into a log that we will not realize how trivial of thing it actually is until that person has passed and our opportunity to make amends has passed also, never to pass by our way again. Nuff said God Bless Plowboy
Posted by Plowboy
Thanks
Mr. Charlie Daniels just want you to know that I am 54 and have been a fan for over 40 yrs. not sure if you read all these comments. I have to look up some of them big words you use or just words I never heard before that are not so big. Have seen you film Monday night football with hank jr. in Orlando , Fl. 05 . I was been to Bridgestone Arena for Nashville gives thanks with Pastor Allen ,Angus Buchan .What I wanted to say is thank you for all the Wisdom from your writing and teaching you are a wise man. Your morning prayer on Twitter just would like to says Thanks again and God Bless from The Farm in Paris,Tennessee.
Posted by Jay
4/16
Mr Daniel's, your monolog today is spot on. I could not have said it better. Your honesty and honor is a bright light in the darkness. All my best wishes. Ray
Posted by Raymond
Reflection
Hi, thank you for the insight and thoughtfulness in your post. Life is precious and passing so quickly. I’ve enjoyed your tweets and love seeing y’all traveling all over the place and making people smile, clap their hands and tap their toes. I strum and sing too, and if I could that’s about all I would do...but in the mean time I’m still grabbing gears moving LTL Freight to and fro all over the northwest. God bless you and family In his grip Mark :)
Posted by Mark
Very Nicely Stated
Charlie, very nicely stated 'memoir' in this blog! Btw, I'm thinking I know of your reunion w/ your old friend, as my friend, 'the Buzzard' said he recently spent some Wonderful time with you!😘 I told him that when he sees or speaks to you again, to tell You 'his #1 fan/friend & fav 'pest' sends her best to him & Hazel, & that so far, he's (You) Safe this year, as I see no tour dates up here yet this year'🤣🤣(but you should Add some, & bring your son & wonderful grandson with you!), which Mr Buzzard said he would do. Wishing you & yours a blessed week, continued good health, & safe travels throughout the year.
Posted by Snow
Counting your blessings is wise.
The older I get, the more I count my blessings. Half of my friends have Alzheimer's, but I can't remember which ones.
Posted by Allan
Blessings
Glad I had the time to read this and thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom with us! Glad you are blessed of the Lord!
Posted by Pam
Old Friend
I have a dear friend who lives in Lebanon,TN. We went years with losing touch. We were RN’s and worked together in Charleston,SC. She moved home. Later found me thanks to the internet. She’s come to SC 5 times now. I’m coming to visit her in June and come to the Fan BBQ. If I ever had a sister it would be her! Always there for me and me for her! God Bless n see you in June. Elaine
Posted by M. Elaine
It's about making time!
It is really a great reminder to use our time wisely. It has been three years since I am living without my best friends and family members. I was't in touch with my best friend after I left my old school. I tried to contact her but she was focused on her study. She was the only person I always shared my all silly talks and secrets. But now I don't really feel to share anything with her. I am sure it is because we did not stay in touch and we allowed time to separate us. Things change as we age. The only reason I decided to travel about 9000 miles is to meet my family and friends to relive old memories. Thank you for this wonderful article. It again made me realized to spend time with family, friend and not only chase life to gain things.
Posted by Diya
counting blessing
Every time I think I'm at a bad point in life, or believe nothing good is happening, recounting my blessing surely seems to help me. There's so much I have to be thankful for, like family, friends, my pets and so on. I think You made great points, and people need to appreciate life for what they have.
Posted by Max